Monday, September 8, 2014
Tonight I sat through Joey's LAST curriculum night of Elementary School.
It is September and of course my mind is all over the place.
Tomorrow is the six year anniversary of my losing E.
September 15th with be the 11th year anniversary of my kissing Andrew goodbye.
But tonight, I thought about Joey.
As we were leaving his school, we saw a piece hanging in the hallway. "The Top Ten Things You Need to Know about Joey" it read. I have to say as I went over each number, I secretly loved that he remembered his brother. I also openly loved that his brother wasn't the number one thing about him. Finding a balance between Joey and Andrew has been difficult at times. Andrew is a part of his story, but there is so much more to him.
He is Joey.
10- He makes comic books on his desk.
9- He likes all kinds of pasta and soup.
8- He's been to Fort Mackinaw.
7- He saved his brother's life.
6- He's been in an underground cave.
5- He used to live across from Commerce.
4- He was born with a twin brother that died.
3- He has a pet baby parrot.
2- He lives close to most of his friends.
#1... He ran in a 5K race.
Reading his list made me smile. Of course I knew all of these things (and so much more) but what HE chose is what made me smile. I could add a million more things that you should know about Joey, but instead I'll add to what he already told you~
He is Joey.
10- His mom loves how talented he is at drawing the expressions of others through his art. He is amazingly talented and was able to read (and draw) expressions at a very young age.
9- His mom loves that he says her mac-and-cheese is the BEST- especially because it is one of the only things she cooks (dad is the chef) and comes out of a blue box.
8- His mom loves his interest in history. Something that the two of them share though perhaps he doesn't know it. She also loves that he questions the same current events that she does.
7- Not only did he save one of his younger brothers when he fell in the water before he could swim, he saved his mom when she was drowning in her own grief. He continues to be an anchor for her.
6- His mom loves that he has a sense of adventure and while he really has been in an underground cave, she loves that he can create all sorts of caves in their house even if it's with some sheets and cushions. He has an AMAZING imagination. One that she hopes he will never lose!
5- He used to live in the house where he and his brother grew in his mom's belly. She would sit in that rocking chair and sing to them and read them both books. They would kick and get so excited when they heard her sing (or perhaps they were telling her to stop). :-)
4- He was born with a twin brother that died and his mom LOVES that he remembers that but LOVES even more that he is JOEY. JONASEN. JOE. The one who was meant to stay and be here and be all these amazing things. She loves that he stayed. He has important things to do in this life. He's already done so very, very much (see 7). She can't wait to see what his future holds and enjoys every minute of the journey with him (well... most minutes).
3- He has a mom who is obsessed with animals... dogs... fish... tortoise... bird... She hopes Joey never asks for a snake or tarantula! She loves animals~ but not all equally.
2- One thing his mom hears again and again from his friends' parents is how kind he is. How well mannered he is. How sweet he is to others. While she already knows all of this, hearing it from others makes her swell with pride.
1- His mom LOVES that he runs and is healthy. She also has begun running and makes sure to put in at least a half hour of exercise before she starts her day. While walking in the summer, a man saw his mom walking and told her, "That's the most important thing you're going to do today!" She remembered that and tells herself that on days she doesn't want to hit the treadmill- which is almost every day.
Running on the treadmill to be a healthy mom WAS the most important thing she did today.
The most important thing she will do tomorrow is read her son HER top ten "Joey Take" on Joey.
He makes her smile.
He lightens her spirit.
He makes her dance, and sing, and love.
Because he is.