Wednesday, May 2, 2012
I was just thinking of that puppy. The one you saw when you were in third grade that you KNEW you had to have. The one you had already named and whispered to saying, "You are just going to love your home. We are going to have so much fun together!"
I was just thinking about the job interview. The one that you nailed! The one that you knew would be yours and you started thinking about the commute and how you would set up your classroom when your 5th grade students arrived in the fall.
I was just thinking of that boy... the one you fell in LOVE with when you were 12. The one that had the last named that you were sure would be your own and practiced writing over and over. The one that made you cry heavy sobs when you learned it was never going to be.
Well... mom and dad said that puppy would get too big. And that job... mom and dad said that would be a long commute. And that boy... your folks said you'd be over him soon... Sometimes mom and dad are right.
The thing is Laura, you have learned that there are things that we can't change in this life even though you wish you could. I wish your hair was thicker and that horrible twin skin that Andrew and Joe left you would go away (without the heavy price tag that a tummy tuck would bring).
But I want you to think about this...
Had you gotten that dog, there would have been no Jenny Puddles. Could you imagine your life without that sweet dog? ~The one you told all your secrets to- the one who you held, tears rolling down your face as she took her last breath...
Had you gotten that job there would have been none of them... All those children that you were meant to teach- those children that were meant to teach you. You know their names... the students who you think of still and wonder if they remember you too... (They do!)
And that boy. The one you cried for days over. Look at your life, your amazing husband- the one whose kiss can still make you weak in the knees, those beautiful children that create the laughter in your home. Let's face it. It was a good thing that God never answered those prayers or perhaps more importantly, He answered them, NO!
But what about him? What about that little boy that you loved and prayed for. The one that you dreamed about. The one that you dream about still?
What about her? The girl you had thought would be a perfect little sister to your Ali Jane?
I have seen your tears. Been with you on those nights that you screamed in the shower hoping no one would hear you (though they probably did). I have watched you as you sat. Silent. Wondering. Wishing. Missing them. No one knew your mind, but I did. And I was there. I know you wondered where God was. Did he hear your prayers? Of course he did. But why did he say "No?".
All of these answers you wanted now. You wanted them yesterday and let's face it... you have had a pretty blessed life. Not much struggle. Not much pain (though I would never minimize your dog, your job, that boy...) But what about them. Your CHILDREN. That's when things seemed to change. They were bigger.
Laura, there are things that you can't change.
You didn't get that dog, but you fell in love with another.
You didn't get that job, but you had one that turned out to be perfect for you.
You didn't marry that boy, but the one you married is more amazing than any other boy you know (or will know!).
You didn't have those babies... you didn't get to look in their eyes... hear their laughter... feel their arms around your neck... hear them call you,
And you can't change that.
Laura, you know they are safe and that unlike that dog, job or boy you know they will see you again. That you will see them again. You know they are waiting.
God said, "No."
And in time you figured out there were others meant to be in your life.
Lives you were meant to touch. Lives meant to touch yours.
And you do. And they have.
But they were meant to be in your life. You were meant to keep their memories alive. You were meant to write this, share them, show others...
There are things we can't change,
but hang in there- endure the painful wait.
Something is in store for you.
Someone, somehow is in store for you.
The next chapter is always better than the last.